tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-590170049809396010.post7147497744246922909..comments2024-03-12T03:55:22.895-07:00Comments on party perfect: reader question of the week #2by Sara Hicks Malonehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12698410854391184308noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-590170049809396010.post-77429322881656819772010-05-03T16:47:44.771-07:002010-05-03T16:47:44.771-07:00I have a very abrasive sister who always comes to ...I have a very abrasive sister who always comes to everything with my parents too. Is it rude to exclide her from my son's birthday party on Saturday? I really want to enjoy the day.Belinda Madsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15574774835166549771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-590170049809396010.post-24571587778843905462010-04-26T14:45:58.135-07:002010-04-26T14:45:58.135-07:00I second the suggestion to avoid doing this get to...I second the suggestion to avoid doing this get together on a day other than Mother's Day (it looks really selfish). Also, when you do plan it - talk to your sister first. Let her know that you love her so much but want special parent time. Then plan a time for the two of you alone (pedis or lunch - be prepared to foot the bill). <br /><br />I have a sister just like this and it is frustrating. But I always talk to her first and then put my foot down and follow through.Cris of Kiss My Tullehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01288828107469402669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-590170049809396010.post-84634105406169897302010-04-26T06:56:43.541-07:002010-04-26T06:56:43.541-07:00I know you have your heart set on mother's day...I know you have your heart set on mother's day but can you plan to have your parents together on a different day?<br />Mother's Day is a day to spend with your children and even tho your sil is older now I am sure her parents may like to have her included. <br />I would invite her and plan a separate dinner with only the parents for another day.Liz @ LivingMySweetLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00977728511571284530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-590170049809396010.post-37080198222210164792010-04-26T05:27:49.201-07:002010-04-26T05:27:49.201-07:00I think etiquette questions are really important! ...I think etiquette questions are really important! Sometimes it is so hard to know what is 'proper', and so very often, what is 'proper' isn't always the most popular option :)<br /><br />There is definitely etiquette in this case though. Unfortunately, I don't think it's going to make you grit your teeth!!<br /><br />In this case, the answer is undeniable. And it stems from the underlying purpose of the celebration. <br /><br />Mother's Day is a celebration of mothers, by their children. <br /><br />Normally, what would happen is that your husband and his sister would have discussed the most appropriate way to celebrate their mother - as you and any siblings you might have would have planned something for your mother.<br /><br />Usually, the celebration is a decision made by all siblings and organised by them.<br /><br />IN this scenario, your sister-in-law and your husband would both be joint-hosts of this event. And as such, she would be present. Similarly, you and any sibling you have would be joint-hosts for yoru mother's celebration.<br /><br />There are two acceptable solutions to this scenario:<br /><br />1) your sister-in-law is present, but you involve her in the event (if this isn't her kind of thing, at least task her with bringing a salad!)<br /><br />2) you have a separate event for your mother-in-law - say a brunch - with your sister-in-law as a joint host. And you have an evening function separately - perhaps canapes and drinks or a simple dinner. <br /><br />I do totally understand how much you want to create an opportunity to have your parents together - and so you should! Perhaps just not on Mother's Day :)this jen dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14787027291104632931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-590170049809396010.post-91949839484314990952010-04-26T05:25:07.628-07:002010-04-26T05:25:07.628-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.this jen dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14787027291104632931noreply@blogger.com